"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy. Love does not boast." 1 Corinthians 13 4:8
Relationships are overrated. Too many people want but don't want to give. In order to get the most out of anything, you must be willing to give all you've got. This is how we do it and make it work.
Twenty-five years ago I was his friend, his laughing buddy and somebody he could confide in. I didn't know where this would lead. I wasn't desperate nor in a hurry. I obtained my college degree and building my life was the most important thing. I was a good woman and deserved a good man.
On June 15, 1996, my life changed forever. Already accomplished and sort of into myself, God made the decision to make this day happen. I didn't deny it as I was ready for a different phase. It came with adjustment, resistence, doubt, joy, pain and gain. I no longer could think of myself as an addition had been added to my life.
Twenty-one years later, we've grown together and as one, identified our strengths and magnified our weaknesses. We still have our own individual characteristics, but they have become intertwined into one.
Be open to change as change starts with you.
When I observe my surroundings and those in my age group, most are divorced and/or working on their 2nd, 3rd and even 4th marriage. When asked how we did it and continue to do it, my only and first response is God. To me that is the one and only reason as He has been the glue. In everything we do and have done, God has been the core of our decision making. No.. we are not perfect, nor do I claim to think we are. This is just what has worked in our life from day one and continues on today.
He that finds a wife finds a good thing." Proverbs 18:22
Out of all honesty, there have been more good days versus bad. Most of the bad had to do with me being selfish and impatient. As soon as I became aware of this, I began to modify my behavior. That's the key! Once you recognize who you are and what you want to become, you adjust your mindset to fit that idea.
I want to be the very best wife and mother. I want to live a life that my kids model as a map for their success in life and relationships. This perspective gave me an ultimatium to recognize it's not all about me.
I'm glad I took the chance to open myself up for love, wait on God to deliver and be obedient with His request. Marriage has made me a better person and mother. I believe if you wait, pray and go about your life, you will encounter what God chooses to bless you with in a spouse.
Don't seek love, let love find you.
Blessings and peace to you...
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